The urge to text your ex is a common feeling.

When your ex pops into your mind, and your fingers start to twitch… and you’re just about to make that one mistake you swore you’d never do again.

It starts innocently.

Scrolling through their Instagram, browsing through their Facebook posts…suddenly you’re cringing and reading old texts.

Then you start to draft the message “just to see how you’re doing.”

But why do you want to text your ex at all?

Let’s not leave you hanging and dive right into it.

They’ve Left A Void

Time often feels like an investment.

After spending time with someone, breaking up with them can leave a void that you think can only be filled by them.

After a relationship ends, you might forget about how challenging the relationship with your ex was and you’ll suddenly notice that there is a lot of negative space in your life.

A break up means that now you have more time to spend with yourself and while that can be beneficial, it can often be difficult.

Struggling to move on means you’re probably reluctant to try new things.

However, as silly as it sounds you have to sail against the wind and find something new to do.

Try out new things until you find a hobby that suits you!

That newness will create excitement and take up that negative space.

Your mind will be too busy thinking about your new hobby to think about how your ex is doing.

You Really Do Want To Stay Friends

When a relationship ends, the person who did the breaking up might want to stay friends.

But the partner who was broken up with might mistake that friendship for something else.

When you’re the one who did the breaking up, it’s easier to see your ex from a platonic angle so you’d think that sending them a text is harmless.

But to the person who was broken up with, that text message sends a lot of mixed signals and probably even gives them false hope.  

Communication with your ex might not end right away, however, it is essential to realise if that communication is holding you back from moving on.

Keep in mind, texting your ex will prolong the recovery process for both of you after the breakup. 

You’re Just Looking For Comfort

There is comfort in the familiar.

You might think you’ll never find someone again.

You let your fears get the best of you and the thought of reconnecting with your ex is comforting. 

If this sounds like you right now, remember that they are exes for a reason.

While it was fun once, they have served their purpose and it is time to ditch them.  

As cheesy as it sounds, there are plenty of fish in the sea!

Have you ever texted your ex? Let us know