You may have experienced the ick before.
You’re feeling comfortable with a person and then, all of a sudden, they do something that gives you the ick.
But why does this happen?
What Is The Ick?
The ick is a negative feeling or reaction towards a person you are dating or involved with.
This can stem from an action, habit, behaviour or personality trait of the person.
This cringe feeling can put you off someone for no apparent reason.
Rather than doubts in a relationship, it is more of a gut feeling that can make you feel repulsed by someone.
The ick can happen quickly and may catch you off guard.
Doubts in a relationship feel more like issues that have been lingering for a while.
Getting the ick may not necessarily mean a person has done something wrong, rather it could be something that simply irritates you.
Why Do You Get The Ick In Relationships?
Oftentimes, the ick seems to appear out of nowhere.
This can make it hard to understand why a person feels this way towards someone they once liked.
Unconscious communication within relationships is often overlooked.
The ick is usually a cause of this unconscious gut feeling.
Can You Get Rid Of It?
Sometimes you get the ick instantly, but what happens when you get it later on in a relationship.
It is more difficult to leave someone over an ick further into a relationship.
On the other hand, it can be hard to shake the feeling of the ick, so can you get over it?
If you get the ick you should take time to evaluate the root cause of it and from there you can determine whether you can work through it or not.
This feeling shouldn’t be ignored, ultimately it is a gut feeling and you should trust your gut.
Hesitancy within a relationship can sometimes manifest itself as getting the ick.
If this is the case you can ask yourself these questions: “Am I being too picky?” or “Do I just need more time to get comfortable with this person?”
If the answer is yes, it may be possible to get over your negative feelings.
Some icks are more negotiable than others, it is possible to talk these through and get over them.
Other icks, such as a person’s natural mannerisms, are harder to overcome.
The only way to get rid of it is to work with your partner to figure out a solution that works for both individuals.
Ultimately it comes down to if an individual can shake the feeling of the ick or work through it.
Let us know if you’ve ever gotten the ick before!
